I have days where it seems like I’m making the proper steps in my life. Then there’s some days where I feel like I’m moving backwards. Sometimes I think my steps forward are a waste of time, because I always seem to fall back into old habits, anyways. My story isn’t about making proper steps into getting out of any kind of drug addiction nor is it about struggling to move into my career path. No, my story is getting over a breakup. I was always the girl who needed to be in a relationship. Crazy? Quite possibly.
Well, here’s my story.
We dated for a few years. As you can imagine, a lot can be shared in that time. I was living in what I felt to be, my happy place. We got jobs to pay the bills and even made enough to travel a little bit. We lived in a home not too far from either work or the lake. Walking distance, really. It was everything I thought to be perfect! Except one thing..
I always doubted if he was “the one”. As time went on I realized how that thought wasn’t just a phase. Our arguments weren’t your typical “couple arguements”. Every argument we got into, I was reminded the thought of needing to break completely free from this relationship. But as most girls- I was scared to be alone. I tried so hard to justify it and convince myself I was just being too hard on myself, him and our relationship. Months went by and finally.. I called it quits. Now you would think if I were to feel this unsure about someone for sometime, that it would be easy to completely let go of that person. Well, it wasn’t. It was hard and it was especially hard seeing him struggle with it. Eventually, I developed a bad habit of talking to him occasionally. Even worst-going to see him. I was going backwards instead of forward from this relationship.
I was going crazy not understanding why I couldn’t just let go. So, then I remember how much I need to be with someone who helps me be better everyday and not someone who challenges me in the worst ways possible. Sometimes it’s as easy as that. I’m learning to distract myself with positive things and doing the things I love. I’m learning to move forward. I’m getting better at this breakup thing and I know I’ll come to the day where I finally let go. I’ll make it through by simply realizing that temporary happiness is far less important than eternal happiness with someone.
-This story shared is focused on how to overcome tough breakups. We know it is never easy to let go, but what we need to remember is that its even harder to hold on. Don’t be afraid to be “alone”. It was once said, it is always better to be alone rather than to be alone in a relationship. Move forward and keep walking to your future. The choice is yours!
“One day at a time, this is enough. Don’t look back and grieve over the past for it is gone. Do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering.”